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In Bustling Vietnam, a Rare and (still untrammeled) Escape

My article on Phu Quoc, Vietnam, with an accompanying slide show, just went live on the New York Times website. Look for it in the Sunday Travel section in the paper this weekend!

I’m almost ashamed at how fortunate I feel to be doing something that I could never have dreamed, five years ago, that I was even capable of.

Seriously. Do what you love. At the expense of everything. It’s worth it.

I took some photographs that weren’t used in the article, so I’ve included them in this post.

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Styling on the Saigon runway. 

Styling on the Saigon runway. 

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The carnage in a small town Vietnamese doctor’s office after I crashed my motorbike on a gravel road in the countryside, sliced open my knee, and ended up with three stitches. It was an adventure, and I have to say, in a sick way I really enjoyed it.

The carnage in a small town Vietnamese doctor’s office after I crashed my motorbike on a gravel road in the countryside, sliced open my knee, and ended up with three stitches. It was an adventure, and I have to say, in a sick way I really enjoyed it.

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Headed down to southern Vietnam this morning, to an island paradise. Taking myself off the radar until Monday morning. Have a great weekend!

Headed down to southern Vietnam this morning, to an island paradise. Taking myself off the radar until Monday morning. Have a great weekend!

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A Vespa Tour of Saigon: The Land Across the River

There are a number of reasons why Occupy Wall Street infuriates me, and my fury has become especially acute now that I’m in Vietnam. The first biggest problem I have with it is that I can’t articulately write about why I’m against it, because I STILL have no idea what it’s about.

The second is the focus on the 1% of Americans who make more than $750,000 a year vs. the 99% of Americans who do not. Guess what? Even if you’re not super wealthy, or wealthy, or even not well-off at all, you’re still doing pretty fucking well in comparison to the rest of the world.

The disparity between the wealthy and the rest of the population isn’t really what’s the matter with the United States. What’s the matter is that we’ve gotten so accustomed to living well that we’ve forgotten how lucky we are to be Americans, with our ample freedoms, our general safety, our clean water, and our access to food and shelter. We no longer want to do the hard work. We expect things to be handed to us. We don’t realize how vitally our privileges and our rights need to be protected, no matter how imperfectly, before they’re gone—taken from us by overwhelming debt, unnecessary wars, and a lack of a decent education.

We need to fight for what we DO have, rather than what we don’t have.

And that’s where the neocons come in…I’m joking. I think.

Anyway, that could be in part what Occupy Wall Street is asking for, but what it seems to be that they care most about is pretty un-impactful shit like private corporate bonuses, and the fact that they can’t drive their cars as much as they’re accustomed to, or that they’ll never be rich. Man, when I didn’t have a salaried job, I worked 7-days a week babysitting, running errands, and hostessing at a restaurant to afford my rent. I didn’t get a dog because it was too great of an expense. Am I really supposed to feel bad that this woman can’t afford to feed her pure-bred boxer?

If she were in Vietnam, and were really starving, she would eat that thing. And she could probably make a profit selling the extra meat!

I know that there are productive things to be protesting in the United States. I know that there are changes that need to be made. I know that there are disparities, that life is unfair, that our government is corrupt and ineffectual. 

But being in Vietnam, I feel so goddamn lucky, and I’m afraid that my generation is taking that luck for granted, turning it into a poison that will bring all of the most dire predictions about our future to fruition.

Which brings me to the third part of my Vespa Tour. 

A Vespa Tour of Saigon: The Land Across the River

By the Saigon River in Ho Chi Minh city live some of the district’s poorest residents—fisherman who bring their wares up from the Mekong Delta. Longshoremen who service the vessels that sail in from abroad. The poor who were displaced from the wealthier districts on the other side when the government built a new highway, and destroyed all of their shelters. Kind of like what Giuliani did with the homeless people in Tomkins Square Park, only in Vietnam, they were transplanted to a trash and chemical wasteland rather than the countryside in Pennsylvania.

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Late Halloween…or the Mekong Delta?
(All horrifying effects compliments of my inability to use the manual settings on my camera.)

Late Halloween…or the Mekong Delta?

(All horrifying effects compliments of my inability to use the manual settings on my camera.)

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The remnants of our meal last night at 3T Quan Nuong, a Vietnamese barbecue place on the roof of Temple Club, the restaurant that literally every tourist guide to Ho Chi Minh City will recommend you try. Skip the more formal Temple, and eat outside, in the smoke from the grills scattered at picnic tables, in the light cast by paper lanterns, and if there’s a birthday, the sparklers that pop in the darkness.
Beef with lemongrass and chili. Wild boar with five spices. Barbecue filets of fish. Prawn with lime and salt. Okra and eggplant. Garlic fried rice. Spring rolls. Mugs of Tiger beer. And for the swan song, huge fresh chunks of pineapple and watermelon.

The remnants of our meal last night at 3T Quan Nuong, a Vietnamese barbecue place on the roof of Temple Club, the restaurant that literally every tourist guide to Ho Chi Minh City will recommend you try. Skip the more formal Temple, and eat outside, in the smoke from the grills scattered at picnic tables, in the light cast by paper lanterns, and if there’s a birthday, the sparklers that pop in the darkness.

Beef with lemongrass and chili. Wild boar with five spices. Barbecue filets of fish. Prawn with lime and salt. Okra and eggplant. Garlic fried rice. Spring rolls. Mugs of Tiger beer. And for the swan song, huge fresh chunks of pineapple and watermelon.

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“Caleb,” I said to my boyfriend, as we walked into the restaurant where we were having dinner. “Did you notice that my motorbike driver was wasted?”
“Yeah, just at the end when you were getting off,” he said.
“WHY DON’T YOU WANT TO PROTECT ME!?!” I screamed.
“I’m sorry, I didn’t know!!”
“Doesn’t matter,” I told him.
“Can you just give me a checklist of responses, so that I know what the outcome of each will be?”
“Good idea,” I agreed. 
And then we had a very nice meal.

“Caleb,” I said to my boyfriend, as we walked into the restaurant where we were having dinner. “Did you notice that my motorbike driver was wasted?”

“Yeah, just at the end when you were getting off,” he said.

“WHY DON’T YOU WANT TO PROTECT ME!?!” I screamed.

“I’m sorry, I didn’t know!!”

“Doesn’t matter,” I told him.

“Can you just give me a checklist of responses, so that I know what the outcome of each will be?”

“Good idea,” I agreed. 

And then we had a very nice meal.

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A Vespa Tour of Saigon: Mourning the Dead

One of the main characteristics of traveling for me, even with someone else, is that I always feel periods of intense loneliness. My mother says that its because I get worn out from all of the sensory overload—the smells, the sounds of new languages, but most especially the visual new-ness of everything. I think she’s right, in part. Last week, I felt a manic joy. This week, after an exhausting burst of absorption, I feel an inability to make decisions, to decide what to do, a general boredom. I think perhaps the ennui is my mind’s way of making me feel at home.

When I was living in Italy in 2003, someone told me that when Japanese tourists go to Florence, they go see so many museums that they end up in the hospital, with seizure deliriums induced by the Uffizi, and the Brunelleschi doors, and the Duomo. Wandering through the streets of Saigon, with all of the colors and life, hasn’t caused me to hallucinate, but it has certainly given me the doldrums, accompanied by strong, heartbreaking dreams.

My biggest fear has always been that I won’t be able to fill a day with enough to keep me happy. It’s ever present, only sometimes less severe. One day, it will manifest itself in reality, the terror, and then there will be an end.

But today, I’ll try to distract myself by writing. So here goes the second part of my three part Vespa Tour guide, brought to you from the sterile coolness of my desk at the Park Hyatt Hotel.

Part II: Mourning the Dead

After the flower stalls, our guide handed us our bike helmets, and we headed, without any sense of direction, down what now seemed to be typical Saigon streets.

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A Sort Of Productive Review: A Day At the Q Spa and Salon

Rather than writing on my blog yesterday afternoon, I went to the Q Spa for a manicure and pedicure. My financial situation is approaching from “I’m going to ignore it” to “it’s getting pretty dire,” but I had been alone all day, while everyone I knew in the United States slept, and Caleb worked. I was starting to feel completely wackadoo. I needed something to do that made me feel good.

Earlier in the day, I had been brainstorming ideas that didn’t involve drinking sauvignon blanc alone in the hotel lobby, or going to the pharmacy across the street for some Diazepam (awww shit, that’s the factory name), and I came up with a really good one. So I Skyped Caleb.

(See why Caleb’s the one for me?)

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Vietnamese minivan.

Vietnamese minivan.

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A Vespa Tour of Saigon: The Flower Market Marks The Beginning

I’m going to write a few posts on my Vespa tour through Saigon, because to be totally honest, I don’t have the stamina to do it all at once. If you ever visit the city, I would highly recommend taking a similar one—they’re definitely pricey in comparison to picking up a motorbike on the street (each private tour is $50 per person for a day), but you have much more control over what you see—plus the added benefit of feeling like Stefania Sandrelli, or someone equally timeless and chic.

We used Vietnam Vespa Adventures, but I’m sure there are other options if you do a little research when you get to Saigon.

In any case, here’s the first part of my adventure.

Part I: The Flower Market Marks The Beginning

Caleb and I had big plans to go to Angkor Wat this past weekend, but then we fell asleep at 8pm on Friday night, lulled into a stupor by cheap massages, and on Saturday, we got wrapped up wandering around the city in the heat, stopping to drink soda water and sauvignon blanc from New Zealand, and waiting out the heavy monsoon rains from underneath tarps covering riverside cafes. The array of ponchos—colorful, single-headed, double-headed, all encompassing—on the motorbikes that paraded, undeterred by the storms, were enough to keep us occupied into the evening.

On Sunday, we woke up at 6am, as has become our habit due to jet lag. We flipped through a borrowed Lonely Planet, and determined that there was basically nothing touristy left to do in Saigon because the city isn’t really for sightseeing, it’s for living. It is straining under the weight of almost 20 million people.

There was some talk of going to the Mekong Delta, to essentialize the natives, and take pictures of their lily pads and rice paddies, but Toon already has big plans to take me there on Tuesday. I figured because I’m not working out while I’m over here because there are far too many disgusting European men with their testicles hanging out of their bike shorts in the hotel gym, I might as well spend another four hours on the back of Toon’s motorbike clenching my ass and toning my thigh muscles until I’m internally bleeding so that I don’t fall off the thing. I’m going to Phu Quoc this weekend, so I need my body to be “beach ready.”

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This morning, I received a dispatch from my brother Stuprendan. He is with my family in Chappaqua, New York—my five siblings, my parents, my aunt, and my grandmother—which was just hit by an early season Nor’easter. Below is his report.
We are all at Nana’s house:PeggyBlaraKiara, Mom, Mariah (in the bathtub)Me
No power at the house, and Dad will not be going to work for the next few days.Hope you are warm in Asia.B.P.W
This is the view from my room at the Park Hyatt Saigon. Good morning Vietnam!

This morning, I received a dispatch from my brother Stuprendan. He is with my family in Chappaqua, New York—my five siblings, my parents, my aunt, and my grandmother—which was just hit by an early season Nor’easter. Below is his report.

We are all at Nana’s house:
Peggy
Blara
Kiara, Mom, Mariah (in the bathtub)
Me

No power at the house, and Dad will not be going to work for the next few days.
Hope you are warm in Asia.
B.P.W

This is the view from my room at the Park Hyatt Saigon. Good morning Vietnam!

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I yak’ed at it, but the butterfly wouldn’t be scared away.

I yak’ed at it, but the butterfly wouldn’t be scared away.

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An idea for a dream kitchen in the future, in a house somewhere warm and dry, with plenty of bedrooms with billowing linen curtains, and red wine every evening on a dusty stone patio.
(Taken in a Buddhist pagoda set in the midst of a neighborhood of funeral homes and primary schools in Saigon.)

An idea for a dream kitchen in the future, in a house somewhere warm and dry, with plenty of bedrooms with billowing linen curtains, and red wine every evening on a dusty stone patio.

(Taken in a Buddhist pagoda set in the midst of a neighborhood of funeral homes and primary schools in Saigon.)

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